Jessica makes a good point, which is, if I am going to stop writing, I should at least try to make sure my last, lingering, post doesn't make me look like an idiot.
So in the interest of pushing that particular post down in the in-box of this blog, I will recount a few conversations I had recently with Owen.
School started. I'm always a little worried about my kids and their social lives. Kids with friends are bullied less often, and in a less sustained, systematic way. The friends don't have to be cool. Just having friends is protective. So I'd like my kids to have friends.
"How's school, Owen? Are any of your friends from last year there? Do you like the kids? Are they nice to you? Did you make any new friends?"
"Mom," he says, placing a hang on my shoulder, "it does take a while to devewope a frwendship."
So I let it go for a few weeks.
Then, we were talking last night, and I asked again.
"Have you made any friends at school yet, Owen?"
"Anybody you want to be friends with?"
"Is anybody mean to you?"
"Wewl. Sometime they do ask ask me questions during recess."
"What kinds of things do you do during recess, Owen?"
"Ok. Well, you're saying kids ask you mean questions while you are playing?"
"Like, 'what are you doing?' and 'are you having fun?' and 'do you want to plway wif me?'"
Oh, the cruelty of children.
And then he said, "Mom? I was hoping I could ask you a question."
"Of course, Owen."
"Because, wewl, you told me earlier I had to stop asking questions."
That's true. It did happen. He asked a bunch of horrible questions I don't care about. It's exhausting, and sometimes, when I'm trying to make dinner and pack lunches and set the table and do the laundry, I don't have any brain space left to determine the winner of whatever crazy contest Owen can dream up. But we are now engaged in a deep, meaningful, conversation.
"Who would win between the King of Ice and the Sword of Fire?"
P.S. You're thinking about it, aren't you? Who WOULD win? The King of Ice probably has arms, which could be helpful in a fight, but the Sword of Fire is made probably made of fire, so . . .